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EMDR Prep: Building Emotional Safety

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“I want to try EMDR, but I’m afraid I’ll fall apart if I open that door.”

If that thought has ever crossed your mind, you’re not alone. Many clients who’ve lived through trauma feel both drawn to the idea of healing and terrified of what it might stir up. They often say things like:

“What if I get overwhelmed and can’t stop crying?”
“What if I shut down in session—or worse, outside of it?”
“What if I can’t keep functioning in my daily life while doing this work?”

These aren’t signs of weakness. They’re signs your system is doing what it was designed to do: protect you.

That’s why EMDR therapy doesn’t begin with trauma processing. It begins with something called resource installation— a phase of the work focused entirely on building your sense of emotional safety and resilience, so you can move forward without being overwhelmed.

 

What Is Resource Installation in EMDR?

Resource installation is a phase of EMDR therapy where we help you strengthen internal supports— things like calm, confidence, safety, or protection. These may come from real memories or imaginative experiences, and we reinforce them using bilateral stimulation (like tapping or eye movements).

The goal is simple: to help you feel more grounded and capable before we touch the hard stuff.

 

Why Some People Need More Resourcing Than Others

Some people already have solid internal supports when they arrive in therapy. They may have had safe relationships, done previous therapy, or developed good emotional regulation skills. Their nervous system can tolerate discomfort and stay steady when things get intense. In these cases, resourcing might be brief.

Others—especially those with complex trauma, neglect, or chaotic early environments—may not have had the chance to develop those supports. Their nervous systems may live in a constant state of hypervigilance or shutdown. Resourcing helps create the safety they didn’t get back then—and that they need now to heal.

 

How Resourcing Helps You Stay Safe

Resourcing isn’t optional. It’s the foundation that makes trauma work safe and effective. It helps you:

  • Regulate strong emotions
  • Reduce overwhelm in and between sessions
  • Stay present while revisiting the past
  • Continue functioning in work, family, and daily life
  • Feel empowered and in control of your healing process

You don’t have to fall apart in order to get better.

 

Real-Life Examples of Resource Installation

Here’s what resourcing can actually look like in session—no jargon, just human stories.

 

Jasmine – Creating a Calm Place

Jasmine couldn’t remember ever feeling safe growing up. So we created a new “calm place” together: a quiet forest with soft moss, birdsong, and sunlight. With tapping, we helped her body begin to associate that image with calm. It became a place she could return to whenever things got overwhelming.

 

Marcus – Imagining a Protector

Marcus had never felt emotionally protected. So we imagined someone who could be that for him—a steady, grounded older brother figure standing at his side. Installing that image helped Marcus feel less alone when revisiting painful memories. It gave his nervous system the signal: “You’re not doing this by yourself.”

 

Sam – Remembering a Time He Felt Strong

Sam didn’t think he had any inner strength—until he remembered a solo hiking trip. That memory, of pushing through exhaustion and reaching the summit, became a powerful resource. We installed that feeling of strength before any trauma work began. It anchored him when he needed it most.

 

Rachel – Using a Resource Already in Place

Rachel had a strong support system and years of therapy behind her. She immediately named her resource: sitting on the porch with her partner, wrapped in a blanket, tea in hand. We installed that image just enough to make it easily accessible. Because Rachel already had strong internal support, her system was ready to move into reprocessing without a long preparation phase.

 

You Don’t Have to Rush the Healing

If you’re nervous about starting EMDR because you’re afraid of falling apart—you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. In fact, your nervous system is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do.

That’s why we start with resourcing.
It’s how we build safety together.
It’s how we help your brain do the work—without undoing you in the process.

So take a breath. You can go at your own pace. We’ll go with you.

 

Want to Know More?

Curious about EMDR or wondering whether you’re ready to begin? Feel free to reach out to the studio at 615-953-3934. I’d be happy to talk more about how this process works and whether it might be a good fit for you. Alternatively, book EMDR with me here.

 

THE CONTENT OF THIS BLOG IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. IT IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR A THERAPEUTIC RELATIONSHIP.

The Mind’s Innate Ability to Heal

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EMDR, Mindfulness, and the Wisdom of the Body

 

The Brain as a Self-Healing System

Our brains are not just thinking machines; they are also designed to heal. At every moment, our minds are making connections, integrating experiences, and updating our internal narrative in ways that help us survive and even thrive. When we experience distressing or traumatic events, our brains attempt to process them, linking them to past experiences, resources, and lessons learned.

But sometimes, when an experience is too overwhelming, our brain’s processing system gets disrupted. Instead of integrating the memory in a way that helps us move forward, it remains “stuck” in its original, raw form—full of fear, pain, or self-doubt. As Thich Nhat Hanh said, “The past is not in the past. It is in you, in your way of breathing, walking, and perceiving life.” Trauma doesn’t just disappear with time; it lingers in our nervous system, shaping our thoughts, emotions, and bodily responses until it is fully processed. This is where healing modalities like EMDR come in, helping the brain do what it was always meant to do: process, integrate, and restore balance.

 

EMDR and the Natural Healing Process

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) isn’t about inserting something new into the brain; it’s about unlocking the brain’s own ability to heal itself. Much like how our bodies work to heal a wound, our minds strive to resolve distressing experiences and return to a state of equilibrium. EMDR activates this natural process by engaging the brain’s adaptive information processing (AIP) system, allowing it to connect previously unprocessed memories with more adaptive, healing insights.

This means that, deep down, our minds want to heal. As Francine Shapiro, the creator of EMDR, put it, “People aren’t broken. Their past experiences are unprocessed.” EMDR doesn’t force healing—it simply clears the path for it.

 

The Body’s Wisdom: Mindfulness, Somatic Healing, and Self-Repair

Thich Nhat Hanh often taught that mindfulness, especially mindful breathing, connects us to the body’s innate wisdom. When we take a deep breath, we are doing more than just filling our lungs— we are grounding ourselves, calming our nervous system, and creating space for healing.

In the same way that EMDR helps the brain integrate and resolve old wounds, mindfulness helps regulate our emotional and physiological state. Every breath we take is an opportunity for self-repair. Every moment of awareness is an act of self-compassion.

But healing doesn’t only happen in the mind—it happens in the body. Trauma is stored not just as memories but as physical sensations, tensions, and patterns of movement. Approaches like yoga, somatic experiencing (SE), and movement therapy help release trauma that words alone cannot reach. Engaging in expressive therapies—such as art, music, and dance—can also facilitate healing by allowing emotions to be processed through creativity and movement rather than only cognition.

This is why mindfulness, somatic therapies, and trauma-healing approaches like EMDR complement each other so beautifully. Both recognize that healing is not something we have to chase— it’s something that naturally unfolds when we create the right conditions. But healing is not always comfortable. As Pema Chödrön reminds us, “Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.” Facing our past can feel unsettling, but it is also the pathway to freedom.

 

The Power of Trusting Your Own Mind

When we understand that healing is an intrinsic function of the mind and body, it changes how we approach growth, recovery, and well-being. It shifts us from a mindset of “fixing what is broken” to one of supporting what is already working.

The next time you feel stuck in an old emotional loop, take a moment to consider this: your mind and body are already working toward resolution. Whether through mindful breathing, EMDR, movement-based therapies, or simply allowing yourself the space to process, you are engaging in one of the most remarkable aspects of being human—the ability to heal, adapt, and thrive.

 

THE CONTENT OF THIS BLOG IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. IT IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR A THERAPEUTIC RELATIONSHIP.

 


Therapist, Lauren Kelley draws upon her wealth of expertise in diverse modalities like EMDR, attachment-based therapy, and CBT to provide personalized, transformative care.

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